Lavender comes from the Latin word lavare, to wash because it was often used in bath and laundry waters. It isn't uncommon for this plant to be associated with purity and cleanliness. In the same manner, a new year represents a clean slate for many of us. How many people swear to improve their diet or start working out at the sound of the clock at midnight on New Year's Eve? *Raises hand!* After the initial burst of motivation, I always slip back into my old lazy habits. A panda can only change so much >___<
So for the past year I've crossed out such resolutions. Instead Miss Adri and I have vowed to try one (or more) new thing every month to kick ourselves out of our comfort zones. Our list includes: shooting a wedding, speed dating, flying in a mini airplane, donating blood, going to an orchestra, volunteering at Guignolee to name a few. By doing all these activities I got to discover myself: things I was afraid or that I didn't think I would enjoy, I ended up liking. So for 2015, I challenge you to try something new every month.
You might be surprised by what you find ;-)
Below are some of the things I discovered in 2014:
I'm going to be a little bit personal now so you can skip this part if you are bored.
This year was full of changes: big ones and small ones intertwining awkwardly into a complicated story. I started out the year super confident about the future only to be thrown into a storm of confusion. I suppose that is how most people feel after graduation. I had mentioned in the past that my dream was to become a government food inspector. After I completed a summer internship, I realized that the job really did not suit my personality however I still worked hard towards that goal because I didn't want to "waste" my studies. I interviewed for a couple of inspection jobs and even got accepted in the government inspector pool.
It didn't seem right to feel dread after acing an interview. I did not want to do inspection but I kept pushing that nagging feeling aside because it was a stable job with a very good income. That is until, I decided on a whim to apply for another job completely outside of my field of study. I didn't think they would accept me because I didn't have any experience outside of food (even all my part time jobs were food related). In the end I got the job, it's one that I didn't think I would enjoy but it suits my personality. I'm so grateful and happy right now :-)
1. Sometimes we blindly want something to work out even when it's not meant to be. If it feels wrong more often than not, it is wrong. It took me a while to accept my gut feelings but changing course is the best decision I made.
After graduation, many of my friends have relocated elsewhere. One of my best friends Toes (in the middle) moved all the way to Calgary! Despite not talking that much during uni, we became much closer this year. I was told by someone that a true friend is one that you can not see for a long time but when you do see each other, it's like time never passed.
3. Once you are in your twenties, it is harder to make true friends so if you have a handful make sure you cherish them. Make time for your friends: plan brunch dates, coffee dates, bouldering dates! Send them a text message to let them know you think about them. Joy is meant to be shared with others.
After graduation, I wanted to take a gap year to teach English in South Korea starting in August. I had sent my application early and the interviewers at the Korean embassy seemed to like me. But for some reason, I did not get a response until 2 weeks before departure date. They told me that they received a large amount of applications this term so they had to defer my application. I was heartbroken because my mind was set on this opportunity. After the rejection, my parents entered a financial crisis and I decided to stay in Montreal to help them with the bills. At first I thought it was just an excuse from the program to ease the rejection but when I received my acceptance letter in October, I felt so conflicted: selfish for wanting to leave, curiosity for the life I was missing out on and sadness for losing the opportunity to travel and try a new challenge.
4. Sometimes things don't work out because of timing. And in the aftermath you realize that it was probably for the best. Maybe it's a way for fate to gently push us in the direction where we are supposed to be. I firmly believe that what is meant to be will be.
5. Money always has a way of coming back if you work hard but time only leaps forward. I'm definitely not promoting irresponsible spending but if you dream of travelling, don't hold back your dreams. You never know when you will lose your health, have too many commitments tying you down or lose your passion. If you have the time, make the most out of it.
I hope this post wasn't too long, I'm not used to writing so much but I really enjoyed sharing the things that I learned in the past year. 2015 will be a grand year: live life as as though everything is rigged in your favour - Rumi.